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Tuesday, 21 May 2013 05:00

Gimme More…

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Have you seen this commercial by At&T?

It cracks me up. The little girl in true female fashion proclaims, "I want more!" She's not talking fashion trends, as I am, but nonetheless it seems we are all programmed to want more. Just like when I go shopping and see all the fabulous trends that I've been pinning to my heart's content, my heart pitter patters with joy and I want them all.

However, when adopting new trends, sure we can buy them all, but we cannot wear them all at the same time without looking like you just got vomited on by the fashion gods. I've put together a little cheat sheet below that shows how you can adopt some of the new trends into what you've already got in your closet.

Oh, and remember to follow us on Pinterest! We love stalkers.

Gimme More...

SOURCES: Dress-Urban Outfitters [3], Sneakers-Piperlime [4]; Shirt- Urban Outfitters [3], Pants- Nasty Gal [5], Shoes- Amazon [6]; Shirt- Forever 21 [7], Shorts- Express [8], Shoes- Piperlime [4]; Dress- Nasty Gal [5], Bracelet- Piperlime [4], Shoes- Forever 21 [7]; Shirt- Nasty Gal [5], Shorts- Urban Outfitters [3], Bathing Suit- Top Shop [9], Shoes- Target [10]; Dress- Forever 21 [7], Shoes- Nine West [11]

Tuesday, 21 May 2013 05:00

Jamie Nova

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Jaime Nova WitchburnShe's a mother, wife, artist, has a solo career and is the heavy hitting front woman for the rock band Witchburn. She started singing at age 2, rebelled at 20 and hasn't looked back since. How does Jamie Nova balance all of this? She's all that and a bag of bad ass...that's how.

You were raised by pretty conservative parents and started singing in your church's choir at age 2. Was any rock music allowed?

If you consider Michael W. Smith rock. Ha ha... I was allowed to listen to Christian radio and to the "Oldies" station and that was it.

You said you rebelled at 20, what band was impactful enough to influence that decision?

It was actually when I went to college. I was raised in a very loving, religious home, but with that came VERY protective wings from my parents. When I was on my own, thousands of miles away I had to spread my own wings. This is where I rebelled. It wasn't a band that I listened to at the time; it was life. These were the life experiences that I was hungry for outside of the bubble that my family had kept me under for the first 18 years of my life. For the first time, I was allowed to explore the world around me in any way I wanted to.

As you've evolved as a singer, who is/are your major influence(s)?

Ann Wilson of Heart, Ronnie James Dio, Rob Halford of Judas Priest, Robert Plant of Led Zeppelin, Janis Joplin, Melissa Etheridge, Bon Scott, Aretha Franklin, Patsy Cline, Daxx Riggs, Pink.... just to name a few. I am a sponge. If something moves me to my core, I love it. It doesn't really matter what genre of music it is.

What's your opinion on the direction rock music is going in?

True Rock music will always be underground. There are instances where great rock bands have broken through the radio barricade and made it in the mainstream. It is always a long hard road for musicians that are called into the rock, hard rock, metal scene. Like AC/DC put it so well, "It's a long way to the top if you want to Rock and Roll."

How do you manage to split your time between your solo career, Witchburn and having a family?

It is difficult but when you have so many things that are important to you, you just make the time. Witchburn has been my passion for nearly 9 years now. My solo music is how I make my living, it is all me, my softer side. I also make money selling my paintings. My family is my inspiration. Destini, and our two boys are the fuel that keep me going; they are my muses. You just have to prioritize things in your life. My family is the most important, but there are times when the demands of touring take me away from that. I just make sure that when I am away or at home I make time for them and keep the relationships healthy.

When you and Mischa (Kianne) created Witchburn, did you expect to have the large amount of following that you have?

From the very beginning we knew that we had something very special going on. We have always had big goals and dreams. The following that has come from that has allowed us to continue dreaming big and setting our goals higher than ever. We have a message that reaches out to people of all walks of life. The fact that people respond, and that our music moves people or touches their life in some way, is the reason why we do what we do. We are where we are because of the people, fans, and family that we have who believe in us and support us the way they do.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Still madly in love with my wife, our oldest son Jaxx will be getting ready to attend college, I will be touring the world debuting my solo album along with Witchburn tours in the interim. Busy, happy, and creating.

Jaime & Destini NovaYou were lucky in being able to marry your wife Destiny Nova, last year. How has this empowered your relationship and what do you say to those who do not understand the importance of legalizing this union?

I was very blessed to have found the one person in the world that I could envision myself spending the rest of my life with. When we were married I was, and to this day, get a thrill every time I can say "My Wife." The importance of verbalizing that commitment to each other, and saying those vows in front of all of those people that we cherish and hold closest to our hearts, was the most monumental moment of my life. There is no doubt, jealousy, or worry that we will not remain together. Every day we become stronger as a team, a couple, and as partners in every aspect of our lives. To those that do understand that, well let's hope that the human evolution continues. There was once a time when the integration of schools was picketed and rallied against. I know that one day we will look back on the legalization of gay marriage with the same emotion. Until that day comes, I will continue to love and cherish my wife and show the world and those around us that we are no different than any other couple who are madly in love with one another.

You mentioned, that your parents were afraid that "something they did" caused you to "become" a lesbian. This quite often is the reaction from parents. What did you say to them and what advice would you give to others dealing with this same issue?

First of all I said, "Well, I love you both and, well... this isn't about you" There was nothing that they did or didn't do. I am in love with a woman. I knew from when I was a young girl that I was attracted to women. Nothing "made" me this way, nor was it a "choice" or "decision." I am gay. Period. I am blessed that my parents love me and have accepted me for who I am and that they have welcomed Destini into our family with open arms. It wasn't always easy. They both had to do some soul searching and it took them years to understand it. I honestly believe that when they finally met Destini, saw the love that we had for each other, the true, pure, and honest way that she loved me, they began to understand. There will always be parents out there that don't understand or who decide to cut you out of their lives. I have family members that no longer talk to me because of their beliefs, but that is their choice. That is their decision and they are the one's who are missing out. I would be lying if I said that it wasn't hard or that it didn't hurt, but it is their choice and not mine. I am still here, loving and living my life. If they ever change their minds I will be right here to give them a big hug and say, "It's about damn time!" ;)

Monday, 20 May 2013 19:45

Meet Laura: A Short Story (Part I)

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It all disappeared – she disappeared – in a fraction of second. If I hadn’t been looking so closely, so intently watching her every move, I might not have noticed it. But I did. The atmosphere of the room shifted. The complete ecstasy of the moment became distorted. Conflicted. Warped. Torturous. Imaginable. She had gone and with her, a part of me went too. I felt it the moment it happened. We weren’t next to each other, no, but we were close enough. I was watching her from across the room. Watching that smile of hers start to light her face whenever our eyes would meet. I know she was thinking about the night before. I certainly was. Yet, we couldn’t let the world find out. We couldn’t let the people we loved most – the ones we wanted to know – know anything about our affair. About the passion, the intense, raw desire we had for one another. We both had too much to lose.

We were both married. Our partners right next to us, yet totally unaware of their surroundings. Of us. They never saw a thing, though we both thought it was because they chose not to, not that they were unaware. How could they be? It was obvious. In truth, it really was. Yes, we thought we were being discrete, but all you had to do was glance at the two of us together and you knew. As much as we tried keeping it a secret, the relationship seemed to have a mind of its own. It wouldn’t be stuffed into a box and hidden away until the right time arose. No, in the end, we should have known better. But I digress.

The Moment – as I’ve come to call it – the moment when everything would change for the both of us, is the real thing I want to talk about. Like I was saying, I could feel it the moment it happened. I’d taken my eyes off of her for one second, one tiny second to grab a drink off of the tray. And in that second, she’d disappeared. I searched the room for any signs of her, but I knew she wasn’t there anymore. I couldn’t feel her presence – her warmth. I couldn’t feel her love. I knew something was wrong.

A commotion was beginning in the direction that I’d last set eyes on her, so I found my body pulling me in its direction. Why was there so much noise? So much chaos? What could possibly warrant this much attention at a time like this? At a gathering such as this with these types of people? It was an art gallery, after all. There shouldn’t be so much clatter and certainly, my dear love was not there. No, she wouldn’t have had much patience for this.

But she was there. I caught a glimpse of the heels I’d bought her last week. They’d been so beautiful and I knew they would match the dress she’d planned on wearing to this event perfectly. When I’d given them to her, she couldn’t have been happier. She adored them and put them on with the shorts and t-shirt she’d been wearing to garden. It was such a sight to see her in them with dirt streaking her face and embedded in her hair, her clothes disheveled and clearly not befitting the shoes, but I’d never seen her look more beautiful. She pranced and strutted and laughed her way around the living room and then she kissed me. She kissed me like she’d never let go of me and in that moment, I vowed I never would. She was mine. I was hers. It was the way things were meant to be, if only our husbands were out of the way. She assured me many times we’d find a way out of our hopeless marriages. I’d believed her. I just never thought this is the way she would have gotten out of hers.

(To Be Continued)

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The 2013 Champions of Equality and Hall of Champions inductees were honored at a reception on Friday, May 10. Created to honor those who have made positive change for the Miami-Dade LGBT community, Champions of Equality has recognized some our community’s most influential leaders. Please take a moment to learn about this year’s Champions:

State of Florida Representative David Richardson is Florida's first openly gay official elected to state office from the113th District representing Miami Beach, North Bay Village, and the Little Havana neighborhood of Miami. David Richardson entered the race as the longshot candidate, after a newly formed district was formed as a result of redistricting. David’s victory in August of 2012 was an inspiration to so many, especially those people who thought being openly gay would hinder any dreams they had of running for state office. Read more...

United States Congressman Joe Garcia has spent more than a decade as an outspoken advocate and leader for LGBT equality. In 2001 Joe Garcia, as Executive Director of the Cuban American National Foundation, led the organization to oppose the repeal of the Miami-Dade Human Rights Ordinance. Garcia appeared on Spanish radio and TV in 2001 and again in 2008 on behalf of Florida Red&Blue in hopes of defeating the state’s anti-equality marriage amendment. Read more...

Miami-Dade County Commission Chairwoman Rebeca Sosa is the first Hispanic woman to Chair the Miami-Dade County Commission and she has supported LGBT issues as an educator and elected official. She is fiercely dedicated to the advancement of human and political rights using her position as Commissioner as a way to ensure equality. In 2008 she helped pass Miami-Dade County’s Domestic Partnership Ordinance and Registry in the face of fierce opposition from her community. Read more...


The Hall of Champions was created three years ago and was designed to honor long-term volunteers who have selflessly and significantly contributed to advance the cause of equality for LGBT people in Miami-Dade County.

Fran Bohnsack was SAVE's founding Co-Chair and led the organization through the critical first five years of our existence. She participated in every organization decision and was critical in leading the organization through some of the most tenuous struggles insuring SAVE’s survival. She was the only board member with campaign experience – having run her own campaign and narrowly losing an election for a state house seat. She continued her full time job as a lobbyist for the Miami River Marine Group during her service as the board Co-Chair. Read more...

James Pepper has been in the equality movement since the 70’s and took on leadership positions as AIDS was still an unnamed disease. Trusted for his integrity and wisdom Jim has served on many boards and founded or helped in the creation of a number of influential organizations including the Stonewall Community Foundation in New York through fundraising and enlisting the human capital necessary for their success. He is considered one of the nation’s leading philanthropists to LGBT and HIV/AIDS related causes. Read more...

Source: SAVE Dade

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Victory for Lake County 8th Grader as School Board Settles Gay-Straight Alliance

Lawsuit After One Day

Immediate settlement by school board ends months of delay and efforts to stop 14-year old Bayli Silberstein from establishing safe schools club

OCALA - Today, just one day after 14-year-old Bayli Silberstein filed suit against the Lake County School Board to enforce her constitutionally protected right to establish a Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) at her school, the School Board has ended months of delay and efforts to block the GSA, and will allow the club to meet. The consent decree entered today in federal court allowing Silberstein to finally establish the GSA settles a lawsuit filed only yesterday, May 1st, which was the result of months of the school board repeatedly delaying and thwarting the establishment of the GSA.

"I'm just so happy that our club is finally going to be allowed to meet," stated Silberstein, an 8th-grader at Carver Middle School. "There's only about a month left of school, but that's still a month we can use to start doing the work to make this school a safer and more welcoming place."

GSAs are student organizations made up of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) students and their straight allies that advocate for an end to bullying, harassment, and discrimination against all students. LGBT students in schools with a GSA are significantly less likely to experience victimization related to their sexual orientation and gender expression than students without a GSA.

Silberstein has been working to establish a GSA at her school since the 2011-2012 school year, but faced multiple delays from school administrators. Frustrated by the inaction, Silberstein and her mother reached out to the ACLU of Florida for assistance in January of 2013.

The ACLU of Florida sent a letter to the school board on January 23rd explaining the legal right of the club to form as well as explaining the value of a GSA in "[c]reating an atmosphere in which bullying and violence are not tolerated and everyone is valued and respected [to] help make all students better citizens."

What followed from the school board was months of delay and machinations to stop the GSA from being established - including a proposed ban on all non-academic clubs at middle schools - culminating with the school board voting 4-1 on April 22nd to table a proposed club policy, effectively leaving the ban on the GSA in place through the remainder of the school year.

As a result of the April 22nd vote, and having exhausted all other options to help Bayli establish the club, the ACLU of Florida filed a lawsuit on May 1st, contending that the School Board, Superintendent of the School District, and Principal of Carver Middle School violated Silberstein's rights under the federal Equal Access Act and the First Amendment to the United States Constitution. Then today, May 2nd, faced with having to spend taxpayer money to argue against the right of one of its students to form the GSA - a right which federal courts have routinely upheld - the school board relented. The parties in the case have entered into a consent decree in which Silberstein will be allowed to form the club for the remainder of the school year. The club will be officially recognized and can meet on the same terms as any other club.

"We are very pleased that the school board has recognized the value in complying with clearly established federal law," stated Daniel Tilley, staff attorney for the ACLU of Florida. "It's unfortunate that it took months of delay, hundreds of concerned parents and neighbors crowding into school board meetings, tens of thousands of petition signers, nationwide media scrutiny, and a federal lawsuit for the school board to do right by their students, but we are nevertheless gratified that Bayli will get to form her club. I imagine that Lake County taxpayers are grateful, too."

Bayli's mother, Erica Silberstein, echoed these sentiments. "It's great that Bayli finally gets to have this club that she's worked so hard for. All she ever wanted was to make her school a better place. I'm proud of her for fighting so hard, and I hope her story is a lesson that even if things seem tough, you can make things better."

A copy of the consent decree is available here.

More information about the lawsuit filed on May 1st is available here.

Source: ACLU

Monday, 20 May 2013 18:06

Mayor, Committed Partner and Mother

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Annise ParkerAnnise Parker
Mayor of Houston, TX

An out lesbian since high school, I never expected the "typical" beginnings of parenthood. And today, as we come up on Mother's Day, I still know it would have been hard to imagine just how my life partner, Kathy, and I would stumble into having a family.

It all began in 1993 when I met Jovon, a teenager whose grandparents had kicked him out for being gay. Kathy and I took him in without hesitation -- homelessness is always a tragedy, and a rejected child needs not just a bed but also an accepting embrace. Just like that, Jovon came into our family and never left. And we never looked back, later adopting Daniela and Marquitta from the custody of CPS and expanding our family to five.

As the mayor of America's fourth-largest city -- and the first openly gay mayor to lead any major U.S. city -- I know that many people view me as a role model in the world of politics. Winning public office shows other LGBT Americans (and their families) that things are changing, that we can live openly and successfully. But it is as a parent -- surely my most important role -- that I hope to be seen as a model, too, because even as families like mine are increasingly accepted and welcomed, there's a long way to go.

In an age when the president of the United States speaks up for gay parents and the majority of Americans support the freedom to marry for all couples -- gay or straight -- there are still obstacles for us at every turn.

Though Kathy and I have been building a life together for 22 years, we cannot marry in our home state -- the state where I was born, and where I serve in Houston's highest office. Texas, like 40 other states, does not allow same-sex couples to marry -- and even couples who are legally married in the ten states that issue licenses to same-sex couples are treated as strangers in the eyes of the federal government because of the Defense of Marriage Act.

Likewise, adoption was a hurdle for us, even as we tried to give Daniela and Marquitta a forever home after they'd been in the foster care system for years. When it comes to same-sex couples, whether we are legally permitted to adopt in Texas is left to the judges' discretion; our judge stood against us before even hearing our case, simply because Kathy and I are lesbians. In the end, I adopted in our home county and we found a fair-minded judge in another county who would allow Kathy to legally become the second parent. But we were the lucky ones. How many families across the country are kept apart by these discriminatory roadblocks?

People who know gay couples know that we are just as committed to each other as our straight counterparts. And people who know gay parents know we are just as dedicated to raising our children with love and protecting them from harm. We will keep pushing for the government to treat us equally -- in marriage and adoption and beyond -- and in the meantime, we'll keep being who we are, openly and honestly, and showing just how alike we all are in the ways that really matter.

That means families like mine will continue to exist, creating a loving home that shows our children that no matter who you are, you are worthy of equal treatment and respect. And it means we'll continue to look forward to the day our state and our nation show us the same.

Annise Parker is the mayor of Houston.

Source: Huffington Post

Monday, 20 May 2013 16:43

May is National Foster Care Month

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National Foster Care MonthDuring the month of May we celebrate National Foster Care Month and honor individuals like Alison Brown from the National Youth Advocate Program (NYAP) who prides herself on the impact she has made in so many children’s lives here in Broward County. Alison has been a foster parent with NYAP for nearly three years. She quickly discovered that there is no greater love than becoming a foster parent. “As a single person, I didn’t know I could be a foster parent. But now I know that you can be gay, straight, single, divorced, renter or homeowner, what NYAP is always looking for are people that can literally be good to children in need.” Alison became a foster parent and a single mother to a 5-year-old boy. She is one of many to become a foster parent through NYAP, a national organization that has provided cost effective, community based services and support to children, youth and families since 1978.

To learn more information on becoming a foster parent, visit

Monday, 20 May 2013 16:27

Girls in Wonderland

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Pack your bags because it’s about to get magical. Spend the weekend with thousands of women at mega dance parties, pool parties, after parties, hotel room parties, and any other parties you can get into. Girls in Wonderland kicks off on May 30th through June 2nd, but the effects of Disney Dumb lasts long after the final pool party.

Check out all of the events planned for the weekend and remember to say, “Haaay!” when you see us snapping your pictures.

Girls In Wonderland 2013

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The antigay group urges its members to contact the theme park and demand that it "maintain a family friendly atmosphere."

One Million Moms, a division of the antigay American Family Association that recently threatened to boycott JC Penney after the retail chain hired Ellen DeGeneres to be its spokesperson, is now targeting Walt Disney World because of its unofficial event “Gay Days” tradition, HuffPost Gay Voices reports. “The first Saturday in June, homosexuals, bisexuals and transvestites will be at the Magic Kingdom with an agenda and purpose different than what would be expected at Disney,” the group writes on its website. “Homosexuals will be celebrating the 23rd Gay Day wearing matching Gay Day merchandise, such as T-shirts. There will also be transvestites dressed in drag showing their support for the event.”

Oh my.

The website goes on to urge members to send an email to Disney’s CEO in protest of the event. “Disney has been irresponsible for far too long. Disney representatives and security need to maintain a family-friendly atmosphere and require proper conduct and dress code on a daily basis.”

You can read the full One Million Moms post here.

Although “Gay Days” is not an official Disney event, organizers say it draws more than 150,000 LGBT travelers to the theme parks every year. Read more about “Gay Days” here.


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It went like this: My best friend introduced us. I was in Europe and she was in Florida. We became very close and started falling head over heels, so we decided to meet in London.

I shall spare you the intensely mushy and gag-inducing cute details and cut right to the culinary treasures we found. On our very first date I thought it fitting that after a long-distance courtship, we should get dressed to kill and go on a date that would make even Romeo and Juliet high-five us. I made reservations in advance at Bar Boulud, Chef Daniel Boulud's restaurant located in London's Mandarin Oriental Hotel. Chef Boulud is known for his Michelin Star winning French Cuisine with very slight American overtones. If I had to Cliff's notes the dinner (and I do) I'll say this, gruyere cheese puffs, butternut squash soup, Seghesio Family Vineyard Arneis (wine kids, wine), lots of giggles and googly eyes, grilled scallops, gnocchi and for dessert a chocolate tart with salted caramel ice cream. Yum, go there and eat food.

We spent a few days traipsing around London visiting castles and eating the most delicious Indian food - better than anything you can find in the states. Among one of the better restaurants that my now partner (yeah I sealed the deal in front of the Eiffel Tower, but that's another story) discovered was DSTRKT, located in the West End Theatre District. Despite the mixed reviews, we were amazed at the incredible food we had. Venison tartare wrapped in paper thin avocado, cauliflower served in a mason jar with hickory smoke sealed inside, and grilled octopus were just some of the things we had. It was all very well executed and tasted like a food fantasy.

After all of our adventures around the city, it was nice to just have a little nosh and wine for dinner one night.

Listen carefully now: Please, for the love of God (or your deity of choice) learn to set up a little wine and cheese plate*!

*Disclaimer: Do not pull this one out unless you intend for this woman to be yours forever or you WILL NOT, I repeat WILL NOT be able to shake her basic ass!

How to set up a wine and cheese plate

The way you set this up is find these sure fire ingredients and wing the rest. You need: a good bottle of wine. If you try and slap a bottle of Beringer on it, I will come to your house and beat you with a wooden spoon Italian grandma style. You will also need one veined cheese (bleu, gorgonzola) one soft cheese (camembert, brie), a sweet jelly, a savory jelly (something with caramelized onions) some crackers and dried fruit. If you can manage an aged parmesan or cheddar and maybe some roasted nuts then all the better. And voilà, your education is served.

How to set up a wine and cheese plate

Go to London, eat delicious food, fall in love (the last part is optional).

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