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Thursday, 14 February 2013 05:00

The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force

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In its 40th year, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force builds the political power of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community by training activists, organizing broad-based campaigns to defeat anti-LGBT referenda and advance pro-LGBT legislation, building the organizational capacity of our movement and generating groundbreaking research through our Policy Institute.

Get involved:
Click here to donate to the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and/or here to volunteer.


Winter Party Festival:

The 2013 Winter Party Festival is one of the most anticipated events of the year. WPF'13 features six action-packed days and nights, nine spectacular dance parties, and over 10,500 guests from around the world. The funds raised at this event will directly benefit the Task Force and its initiatives.


Women’s Events:

Thursday, March 7, 2013
7 - 11 p.m.
FIFTY at Viceroy Miami
485 Brickell Ave, Miami

GA $25 - Buy Now

Join celebrity Jessica Clark for the opening event of Her Winter Party at the fabulous FIFTY, a private lounge atop Viceroy Miami. Take in the spectacular view, enjoy the sexy sounds of resident DJ Joseph Anthony, and take part in our silent art auction, featuring the work of a variety of local artists. Admission includes an open bar for selected cocktails courtesy of Bacardi, wine and delectable hors d’oeuvres.

Friday, March 8, 2013
10 p.m. - 3 a.m.
TSL Lounge
167 NW 23rd St.
Wynwood, Miami

GA $12 - Buy Now

Feel the heat and the energy at Pa’Ella, our signature Latin event co-produced by Icandee Events. The rhythm is sure to keep you on the dance floor all night enjoying plenty of caliente eye candy at a sexy new outdoor/indoor lounge in the artsy Wynwood District. Special performance by the critically acclaimed Afro-Cuban Funk band PALO!, winner of best band 2012 by the Miami New Times.

This event is sponsored in part by Tampico.

Saturday, March 9, 2013
Industry - The Official Signature Women’s Event of Winter Party
10 p.m. - 3 a.m.
Safi Club and Lounge
20 Biscayne Blvd.
Miami, FL

GA $15 - Buy Now

Check your inhibitions at the door and come play with hundreds of women. Feel the energy as the music pumps and go-go dancers keep you moving all night at the sexy new indoor/outdoor club lounge Safi.

Pre-event dinner reservation available- 305 495 6969

Sunday, March 10, 2013
Women's Brunch
11 a.m. - 2 p.m.
Terrazza at Shore Club
1901 Collins Avenue
Miami Beach

GA $45 - Buy Now

Terrazza at one of South Beach’s most chic hotels, Shore Club, serves up the final event of Her Winter Party, the Women’s Brunch. The menu includes a beautiful setting, amazing food, hot women and soulful sounds – a not-to-be-missed event. Brunch includes a bloody mary or mimosa, exactly what you need to get geared up for the 20th Edition Beach Party.

Thursday, 14 February 2013 05:00

It’s Black, It’s White

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Lynn Bove and icandee events celebrated their thirteenth year at LMNT. The women looked spectacular, as always, dressed to the nines in the black and white theme. DJs Gigi and Citizen Jane kept the night going with diverse sets of Salsa, Merengue, Top 40, and House. Afrobeta stole the show with a jam session that had everyone swaying.

Cheers to icandee! We wish you 13 more happy years of success.

Click here for pix of the naughty good time.

Thursday, 14 February 2013 05:00

Tied up in Chocolate

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Ah Valentine’s Day… Hallmark’s answer to “we need to make up a Holiday where everyone will spend lotsa money.” Tied up in Chocolate

Just like everyone else, I have been suckered into the celebration and do enjoy doing something romantic and sexy for my partner. I even use it as an excuse to try something new. Lucky for all of you, I am here to share a few fun ideas, with a few titillating and adventurous products. I thought up an exciting combination I think you all might enjoy, or at least ponder the possibilities. We all have our kinky side! I just think we need to live it out once in a while.

The first is a delicious reminder of Valentine’s Day, called Chocolate Fantasy. Turn your lover into a bedtime treat by drizzling on the delectable assortment of chocolate body toppings and have fun licking them off. While you satisfy your sweet tooth, you’ll also satisfy your partner.

Yes Ladies, this kit has four flavored chocolate bottles of goodness. I know what you’re thinking, “Marlene, those things taste like shit.” Normally I would agree. I’ve tasted some pretty nasty crap some companies try to pass off as chocolate. However, these by Pure Romance are fucking amazing, delicious and not runny. I promise you won’t be disappointed.

Tied up in ChocolateThe other product I think would be fun with the chocolate fantasy is Bed, Bondage and Beyond. And, it’s exactly what is sounds like!

Turn you bed into the ultimate bondage playground when you slide the straps under the mattress and instantly create endless possibilities. Position the silky, padded, hook-and-loop cuffs at the sides of the bed to restrain arms and legs out to the side. For sexy stretch-out fantasies, position the cuffs at the head and foot of the bed. Any way you play, it’s exciting, easy, and amazing. Come on girls! You know that sounds too fun not to try. You can even switch and “torture” each other over and over and over.

If you’re feeling extra frisky you can add a blindfold to the mix. I could go on and on, but I have my own interlude to plan out. Enjoy to the fullest my friends!

Thursday, 14 February 2013 05:00

Karina Iglesias

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Karina IglesiasYour girl Fay sat down with the incomparable soul/R&B vocalist Karina Iglesias for a chat about music, Menudo, and American Idol.

First of all I want to thank you so much for allowing me to see you perform today. I loved your set, but I want to know how the hell you got the playlist off my iPod because every song you played was one of my songs? How did you know?

Well, I was a teenager when all this music came out. So I’m like a 90’s girl.

So you were born in Miami, but where are your parents from?

They are from Honduras. Everyone thinks I’m Puerto Rican or Colombian, but I’m Honduran!

Has that influenced your style of music?

Yes! The best thing that happened to me when I was a kid is that I was sent to Honduras every summer for summer school. I had no other choice than to listen to all kinds of Spanish music. That’s when I fell in love with Menudo. I will say that, I’m not ashamed.

Who was your favorite? Charlie?

Charlie! Yes Charlie was my favorite! I learned a lot about latin music. I had no choice. I learned a lot about older singer/songwriters like Juan Gabriel, Rocio Durcal, and Camilo Sesto. Then, mix that up with everything I was listening to here, like hip-hop and grunge when I was in high school, plus classical music when I went to college. I love music, it makes the world go round.

I know you play the guitar, but is there anything you want to play if you had the time?

I would love to learn to play the drums. I would love to bang on the drums. I played the piano when I was a kid but it didn’t seem cool enough. I think the guitar is a cool instrument.

When you create your music do you find yourself leaning more towards one style than the other or are you re-inventing or inventing your own kind of thing?

On my album I use a lot of the artists that were influencing me at the time like Michael Jackson, Marvin Gaye, Sade, and Sara McLaughlin. I didn’t really approach it like I’m going to do an album under one specific style, it just went in many different kinds of directions. There is a little bit of everything. There’s a little bit of Funk, a little bit of R&B, a little bit of Blues, Gospel, and Pop.

You have a beautiful voice and you were trained?

Yes, I took 3 years of classical training when I was in college. Not only did I improve my range by singing classical arias, but I learned to sing in different languages like German, Italian and French. That really helped to increase my vocal range and it helped me learn the techniques to stay in this business a long time, you need to learn how to breathe properly. It’s not just about having a good voice, its learning how to breath, stand and place your notes so you have longevity in your career.

Have you ever considered trying out for shows like American Idol?

I’ve auditioned for American Idol and many, many other shows. It’s an exercise in toughening your skin because the doors get closed on your face all the time. If I gave up every time somebody told me that I’m not what they are looking for, or I’m not girly enough, or I’m not skinny enough, or I don’t have long hair, or I’m not blonde, then I wouldn’t be in this business. It’s a lot of sacrifice and a lot of hard work.

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Teacher supporting the effort says being gay is a choice and that gay people don’t have a purpose in life


Washington – The Human Rights Campaign, the nation’s largest lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender civil rights organization, is condemning the efforts of a small group in Indiana working to ban gay and lesbian students from attending the Sullivan High School prom this year. One student who supports the ban told a local NBC affiliate: “We want to make the public see that we love the homosexuals, but we don't think it's right nor should it be accepted.”

The high school says it cannot ban gay and lesbian students from attending, but school officials can do more to condemn the efforts underway and send a message that singling out LGBT students is unacceptable. One student referred to a prom that would prohibit LGBT youth as a “good” prom, while a special education teacher in the area said she believes allowing LGBT kids to attend the high school’s prom is “offensive.”

“It’s disheartening to see some community members make such an explicit attempt at singling out LGBT youth for exclusion from a prom, which is a milestone event for so many young people,” said HRC Vice President for Communications Fred Sainz. “We know that LGBT youth are twice as likely as their straight peers to face bullying, and 92 percent of them hear negative things about being gay. Our teachers and community leaders should be striving to create an environment that is inclusive and welcoming, not one that marginalizes kids and says who they are is wrong.”

A Facebook page set-up by those backing attempts to ban LGBT students from the prom is now defunct, but a page set-up to support all Sullivan High School students – regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity – has attracted nearly 5,000 likes.

“We should be teaching our children to treat others as they wish to be treated. It’s unfortunate that some of the adults in Sullivan are instead sending a message to youth in the community that there is something fundamentally wrong with LGBT people,” added Sainz.

Last year, HRC released a groundbreaking youth survey that illustrates the obstacles LGBT youth face. The survey found that 42 percent of LGBT youth say they live in a community that isn’t accepting of LGBT people. Nearly one-third of youth say their biggest problems in life include not being accepted by their family, bullying at school and a fear of living openly. And 92 percent of youth say they hear negative messages from others about being LGBT.

HRC is calling on its members and supporters to speak out against the discriminatory “separate but equal” prom movement by taking action at

The Human Rights Campaign is the largest national lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender political organization with members throughout the country. It effectively lobbies Congress, provides campaign support and educates the public to ensure that LGBT Americans can be open, honest and safe at home, at work and in the community.

Tuesday, 05 February 2013 05:00

Let's Eat in Paris!

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Let's eat in Paris!First of all, I have to let you in on a little secret, I'm not very organized. But sometimes my faith in the universe or Goddess above, whatever your deity of choice may be, throws an elbow into what may be a giant boo boo and turns it into pure gold. It was the week before my trip to Paris with my cousin, and I still had no accommodations booked. I basically picked a hotel at random through and hoped for the best. When we arrived in the quaint Paris neighborhood of St. Lazare I was relieved. Not only was the hotel centrally located (4 RUE D’AMSTERDAM 75009 PARIS), but the hotel itself was very cute and the staff was very friendly. Directly across from the hotel, Le Grand Hotel de Normandie, there was both a train station and one of the largest metro (subway) stations in Paris.

Let's eat in Paris!Right so let's talk food. If you see a crepe chef spreading that luscious batter on a hot plate and cranking out gorgeous crepes, do yourself a favor and have one! There was the most charming walk-up window with a crepe man within walking distance of our hotel. For breakfast I had a ham, cheese, and egg crepe. You will definitely need to brush up on your food knowledge in French because, shocking, everything is in French! But don't be intimidated, most Parisians speak English. You should at least try and hammer down some key words in French like "eggs, cheese, jam, beef, chicken etc." Also learning how to say "where is" and "may I have" along with other key phrases is a good idea.

Let's eat in Paris!French macaroons are another delicacy that you absolutely must try. Some patisseries (bakeries) try and pass off prepackaged macaroons, but just about every 5th patisserie will have the real deal. You want to look for delicate unpackaged macaroons in a variety of flavors, and when in doubt, ask! I call them tiny colorful hamburgers but what they are is a flavored meringue cookie filled with cream. They come in all sorts of flavors-raspberry, chocolate, pistachio, strawberry. Just thinking about them is making me hungry!!

Let's eat in Paris!On one of my last days in Paris, my cousin and I ventured out to Versailles. No not the Cuban restaurant in Little Havana! I'm talking about the huge ornate palace on the outskirts of Paris. We were there on the first Sunday of the month which means the entrance was free. I'm not sure if this happens every Sunday or if it was because it was the first Sunday, but there was also a massive open air market that I was like a kid in a candy store! It was a food nerds dream come true! Bakers and fish mongers galore! To be honest, I liked it better than visiting the palace itself. If you're going to be in Paris, these are just a few things you must try! Watch out for next month's issue when I cover Le Moulin Rouge!

For crepes- La Pepineire 6 Place St-Augustin Paris France

Saturday, 02 February 2013 05:00

The Question You Should Never Ask a Lesbian Mom

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By:Judy GoldThe Question You Should Never Ask a Lesbian Mom
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A few weeks ago I took my 11-year-old son Ben to the doctor. He had been snoring so loudly that his brother refused to sleep in the same room, so we made an appointment with the best pediatric E.N.T. in the entire world. (Yes, that's what it's like living in NYC.) When we checked in, the nurse gave me some forms to fill out. I was a bit taken aback when I noticed that the forms said "Mother's Name" and "Father's Name," given that we live in one of the most socially progressive cities in the world. I did my customary sigh and cross-out and wrote "Parent/Guardian 1" and "Parent/Guardian 2," as I had done scores of times before. Ben watched as I handed the papers back to the nurse, mentioning that the forms needed to be updated. He had seen me do this way too many times.

The nurse perfunctorily agreed and walked us down the hall to the examining room, where we waited patiently for this highly acclaimed doctor, who was indeed warm and smart and had a great bedside manner. He informed us that Ben needed sinus surgery and his tonsils removed. As we were checking out with the nurse, she suggested that we schedule the surgery immediately, because the doctor gets really booked up. (When the hell am I going to get booked up? Oh, different doctor. Let's move on.)

The nurse phoned New York-Presbyterian Hospital to make the arrangements while we stood at her desk. At one point during her conversation, she seemed a bit uncomfortable and kept looking up at me while saying into the phone, "Sure... well... uh-huh... OK...." A moment later she covered the phone with her hand and asked me, "Um, who's the real mother?"

Now, I have been asked that question many times -- too many times -- and when I was with my children's other mother, we would say, "We forgot," or, "What do you mean? We both are, of course." But that was when the kids were little and didn't comprehend the ignorance of that inquiry. It would happen at airports, in food courts, basically in places where people are more likely to come over and tell you how cute your kids are. But this was different. I was at a doctor's office, and I had already crossed out the words "Mother" and "Father" on the forms, and my son was standing next to me and knew exactly what the nurse was asking. I responded firmly yet kindly, "We are both his real mothers. If you are asking who is his biological or birth mother, that would be me. Don't ever ask that question again -- especially in front of a child."

A few days later I received paperwork from the hospital that the nurse had called. I was blown away when I began to fill out the forms: "Mother's Name," "Mother's Home Phone Number," "Father's Name," "Father's Work Phone Number." Hello?! Is it 1957?! I did my usual crossing out, but this time I used a sharpie and a lot of fury.

The day before the surgery, as I was walking to get on the bus, my cellphone rang.

"Hello?" I said.

"Hi," said a voice on the other end. "May I please speak to Benjamin's mother or father?"

"Is this the hospital?" My blood pressure was rising.

"Yes it is. We are calling to confirm Benjamin's surgery tomorrow. It will be at 3:30. Please arrive by 1. No food or liquids after midnight."

"Benjamin doesn't have a father. He has two mothers. All your forms say 'Mother' and 'Father.' Is there someone I can speak to about this?"

"Oh, I totally understand. Yes, there is. Here is the number you can call to file a complaint."

"Thanks. This can get quite infuriating."

"I bet. I get it. I really do. It's ridiculous. Have a nice day."

"Oh, it's going to be a delightful 24 hours, especially tomorrow morning, when my food-obsessed child can't eat or drink until his surgery is over."

I hung up and called the administrative office to file a complaint. I left a message with my name and phone number. Nobody called me back.

The following day the three of us -- Ben, my ex (Ben's other mom) and I -- arrived at the hospital. The first person who greeted us gave us more paperwork and asked if Ben was on his mother's or his father's insurance.

"Ben doesn't have a father," I said. "He has two mothers. The forms should all say that."

"Oh, I'm sorry. Can whomever's insurance he's on sign here?"

"Sure. And, you know, this paper work should really be updated."

"Yes, ma'am."

I don't know if I was more pissed off at the customary blowoff or that fact that she called me "ma'am."

We sat on the couch, and the social worker came over to speak to us about what was going to happen and to put Ben at ease.

"Hi," she said. "I'm Karen, the social worker. And you are Benjamin, right? And this is your mom?"

"We're both his moms," I said. There is no mistaking that I am Ben's bio mom: At just 11 years old he's already 5-foot-7½ and 150 pounds, wears a size-12 men's shoe and has a face identical to mine.

"Oh, OK. Great."

Moments later another nurse handed us one parent-sized hospital gown, so we assumed that only one of us could accompany Ben to the operating room. We asked Ben whom he wanted with him as he fell asleep and whom he wanted with him when he woke up. As usual, he said he didn't care and asked us to decide. Then I noticed a mom and a dad in hospital gowns exiting the operating room. I summoned the nurse and asked if only one parent was allowed to accompany Ben.

"Oh, no," she said. "Both parents are allowed into the operating room."

"Then we will need another gown," I told her.

"We are both his parents."

"Absolutely! So sorry."

I can go on and on about how many more times that day we had to "come out" as a family. I can also tell you the palpable guilt I felt as my son had to witness our inequality over and over again. But there was one last straw. The following morning the hospital phoned to see how Ben was doing. Ben answered the phone, because I was out getting him some soup, and the person asked, "Can I speak to your mother or father?" And now it was his turn. His turn to come out. His turn to explain his family. I was incensed and simultaneously disheartened. I needed to scream from the mountaintop, so I tweeted. Some hours later I got a tweet from Dr. Robert Kelly, New York-Presbyterian's president, asking me to email him. I sent him an email with my phone number, and shockingly enough he called me soon thereafter. He expressed how mortified he was and mentioned that he brought it up in the executive staff meeting that morning. He also assured me that changes were going to be made immediately, and that it was going to take some time, but that he was going to get this done. I thanked him and reminded him that this issue doesn't just affect LGBT families but families that lost a parent on 9/11 or in Afghanistan or Iraq or in any other awful way. It affects all those families that don't fit the mold, and there are a lot of us. And even though President Obama's recent inaugural address demonstrates that minds are changing, they can't change quickly enough for this lesbian mom with a sick kid.

Before I hung up with Dr. Kelly, I suggested that his employees take just a few seconds to look at the paper that I crossed out with my large black sharpie so that they would know exactly who they will be talking. It might just be the son of a frustrated and angry lesbian mom. Ben or any other child should not be burdened with explaining that their families are just as valid as everyone else's.

Tuesday, 08 January 2013 05:00


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In many ways, the month of January reminds me of the first day of 4th grade, when my teacher, Mrs. Mir, stood in front of the class and informed us that we all had A’s and that it was up to us to keep it that way. The entire class ended up getting an A, but only because Mrs. Mir broke her hip and none of the 9 substitute teachers that cycled through the year ever recorded a single grade.

Every year, I start off with that same feeling of hope and determination to accomplish whatever stupid goal I’ve made my New Year’s resolution to be. But, half way through, I either lose steam or conveniently forget what my goal was. The truth is none of my accomplishments have been as a result of a New Year’s resolution. None. But, I also don’t want to be that guy that replies in the negative when someone asks me about my resolution. So, I’ve resolved to come up with a fake resolution. And, because it’s fake, I can be as ambitious as I want.

Here are a few New Year’s Resolutions I’ve come up with:

1. To gain three times my body weight in the hopes to become a break-out reality star on ‘The Biggest Loser,’ and have Jillian Michaels fall in love with me only to dump her in a horrible fight in the middle of the gym that will conveniently be caught on camera.

2. In order to expand my social life and add a little fun to my daily routine, I will teach my vagina to smoke. That way, I can be invited to more parties and meet new people.

3. Volunteer at my neighborhood strip club and help the exotic dancers with their homework.

4. Start a campaign to recruit more women to become lesbians by doing some serious outreach in colleges, churches, and establishments that sell smoothies.

Join me in making up some fake resolutions. Leave your comments.

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In 2012 Aqua Foundation awarded 15 scholarships ranging from $2,500- $5,000 and $50,000 in grants.

In 2013, the priorities continue to be:
  1. Support LBT Women’s physical, mental, and emotional health.
  2. Combat LGBT youth homelessness.
  3. Create conferences for LBT young women on cultivating leadership, personal financial planning, health, and business skills.
Aqua Foundation for Women is led by a group of committed women who reside in South Florida. The Board of Directors is comprised of women who, on a 100 percent volunteer basis, donate their time and expertise to grow and nurture the Aqua Foundation for Women.

The Foundation focuses its efforts on the following:
  • Grants - Their grant program awards organizations in a variety of areas including wellness, youth empowerment, therapeutic counseling, cultural enrichment, equality and more.

  • Scholarships - They provide scholarships to benefit high school, college or graduate students who are active in South Florida’s LBT community. A key role of this program is to build tomorrow’s leaders today.

  • Mentoring - Each scholarship recipient is paired with a mentor whose expertise is typically in the same field as the recipient’s field of study. The mentor’s objective is to lend support to the recipient with her education and community goals.

  •  Initiatives - The Foundation has targeted the unique health needs of LBT women by providing funding to Pride Center to create an online directory of healthcare professionals who have passed a vetting process to determine that they treat LBT women with the respect they deserve. This initiative will encourage LBT women to seek medical attention with greater frequency and comfort and, ultimately, save lives.

  • Identifying Community Needs - The Foundation creates an open dialogue with our community through conferences, surveys and outreach to local community leaders and the many women who make up our LBT population in South Florida.

  • Fostering Philanthropy and Building Community - They encourage volunteerism and the act of giving through ongoing events, membership program, and by leading by example.
  • Building Strategic Alliances and Collaboration - The Foundation integrates with mainstream organizations and collaborate with GLBTQ organizations to build community and relationships that promote wellness and equality.
Get involved:
Click here to donate to Aqua Foundation for Women and/or here to volunteer.

Aqua Foundation for Women
4500 Biscayne Boulevard, Suite 340
Miami, Florida 33137
Phone: 305.576.AQUA (2782)

Mission: The mission of the Aqua Foundation for Women is to serve as the funding catalyst for lesbian, bisexual, and transgender wellness and equality in South Florida through grants, scholarships and initiatives.
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The Pride Center’s Tri-County LBT Women’s Health Initiative funded by Aqua Foundation for Women, has developed an online, searchable database directory. The Initiative provides necessary tools for LBT health consumers to access health care without fear and social stigma by accessing culturally competent providers.

The Initiative represents a true community collaboration. The program has been spearheaded by the Pride Center in collaboration with Women in Network (WIN), BLAST and Sun Serve to develop, organize and market the resource.

The online directory contains over 300 health care practitioners in Dade, Broward and Palm Beach counties, including gynecologists, primary care physicians, and mental health professionals who work with LBT women patients. The Initiative established a vetting process to ensure that providers demonstrate standards of evident cultural competency. The user-friendly online directory also includes information on insurance accepted by providers, and free and low-cost health providers.

To visit the new directory or to submit your favorite LBT friendly doctor please visit and start your search.

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